MARRY YOUR MATE: 6 MATES YOU MUST MARRY FOR A STRONG AND GODLY UNION

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March 17, 2025
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Marriage is a divine institution, designed by God to reflect His love, unity, and purpose. However, in today’s world, many marriages are failing because people enter into them without proper understanding of compatibility. One of the surest ways to prevent your marriage from adding to the rising divorce rate is to marry your mate.

If you are already married, the key to a fulfilling and lasting relationship is to make your spouse your mate. The phrase “Am I your mate?” does not apply in marriage. For a relationship to thrive, both partners must be aligned in crucial aspects of life.

This article will explore six essential dimensions in which you and your spouse or the person you are considering marrying must be mates. If these areas of compatibility are not present, the foundation of your marriage may be weak, leading to unnecessary struggles and frustrations.

1. MARRY YOUR SPEAKING MATE

Communication is the heartbeat of a successful marriage. A marriage without healthy communication is like a body without blood. Many couples struggle because they do not understand each other when they speak. If you are saying one thing and your partner is interpreting another, there will be endless misunderstandings.

A lack of communication is the reason some men prefer to spend hours at the bar with friends rather than going home to their wives. Many women, too, would rather chat with their friends than engage in meaningful discussions with their husbands. If you cannot enjoy conversations with your partner, your marriage will lack depth and connection.

Marry someone who speaks your language, someone who understands your thoughts, and someone with whom you can share your deepest ideas.

“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” – Colossians 4:6

2. MARRY YOUR SCHOOL MATE

Marriage is a lifelong learning experience. From the moment you say “I do” until the end of your lives, both of you must be willing to grow, learn, and improve together.

Do not marry someone who believes they already know everything. A person who is rigid, unwilling to learn new things, and resistant to personal growth will make the journey of marriage difficult.

Marriage is a partnership of growth, and it is important to choose someone who is eager to develop spiritually, intellectually, emotionally, and financially. A wise spouse understands that learning is continuous and is open to exploring new ideas with their partner.

“An intelligent heart acquires knowledge, and the ear of the wise seeks knowledge.” – Proverbs 18:15

3. MARRY YOUR SPIRITUAL MATE

Marriage is not just a physical and emotional union; it is a spiritual covenant. It is dangerous to marry someone who does not share your faith in God. When both partners do not serve the same God or do not share the same level of spiritual commitment, conflict is inevitable.

The Bible warns against being unequally yoked with unbelievers. A marriage where one partner is spiritually strong while the other is indifferent or hostile towards God’s word will struggle with alignment in purpose and values.

If you desire a peaceful, God-centered home, choose a spouse who will pray with you, study the Word with you, and grow in faith alongside you.

“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” – 2 Corinthians 6:14

4. MARRY YOUR SPENDING MATE

Financial issues are one of the leading causes of conflict in marriage. If a person is stingy, reckless with money, or lacks financial discipline, problems will arise.

A man who is careless with money during courtship will not suddenly become financially responsible in marriage. A woman who believes that “my husband’s money is our money, but my money is my money” will create unnecessary financial tension in the home.

Marry someone who believes in financial partnership, understands the dignity of labor, and is willing to contribute to the success of the family. Money should not be a source of division in marriage but a tool for building a stable and prosperous home.

“Honor the Lord with your wealth and with the firstfruits of all your produce.” – Proverbs 3:9

5. MARRY YOUR SEX MATE

Sexual intimacy is an important part of marriage. It is God’s design for bonding, pleasure, and procreation. Many marriages suffer because there is no emotional or physical attraction between partners.

Sex is not a sin within marriage. It is a divine gift meant to be enjoyed. Marry someone you are physically and emotionally drawn to, someone you can express love and affection with freely. A healthy sexual relationship strengthens the bond between spouses and helps prevent temptations that lead to infidelity.

No matter how spiritual a marriage is, prayer and Bible study alone will not replace physical intimacy. Romance, affection, and sexual connection are necessary for a fulfilling marriage.

“Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth… Be intoxicated always in her love.” – Proverbs 5:18-19

6. MARRY YOUR SOCIAL MATE

Marriage extends beyond private life, it also affects your social life. If you are not comfortable being seen in public with your spouse, or if you are hesitant to introduce them to your friends and family, then something is wrong.

Do not marry someone who makes you feel embarrassed, insecure, or disconnected in social settings. Your spouse should be someone you can proudly introduce to people and enjoy social moments with.

Marry someone who aligns with your social values and lifestyle, someone who complements you in public and private.

“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” – Proverbs 17:17

CAN ONE PERSON HAVE ALL SIX MATES?

Yes. It is possible to find all these qualities in one person. You do not need multiple partners to fulfill these needs. The key is to seek God’s wisdom, be patient, and also work on yourself so that you can be the right person for the spouse you desire.

GOD’S PROMISE FOR YOU

“Seek and read from the book of the Lord: Not one of these shall be missing; none shall be without her mate. For the mouth of the Lord has commanded, and his Spirit has gathered them.” – Isaiah 34:16

Say this with faith: I shall not lack a mate. God has prepared the right partner for me, and my marriage shall be blessed!